Through The Difficult Times January 4, 2019Uncategorizedadmin The way we treat ourselves in difficult moments says a lot about who we are. It’s simple to be on top of the world when things are going right and we want to hold on to this feeling hoping it will last forever. Yet when it does not, it seems like we’re bound to train tracks with an oncoming train headed our way and not able to move. How we behave towards ourselves in our darkest moment’s lays the basis for who we become later on. Self-love is a tricky concept for many to grasp. I’ve had countless coaching sessions with people who find it hard to love and love themselves. This primarily stems from our formative years and the messages we received from our parents or caregivers. They become entrenched into our mind and nervous system and, if reinforced, are difficult to give up. However, difficult does not mean impossible. Is this something you’ve experienced? For instance, how can you treat yourself when things don’t go your way? If your significant other breaks up with you or your health or finances endure. What’s your inner dialogue during these times? I’ve experienced pain and suffering during my life in the shape of losing my father to disease, a relationship break up, a health crisis and fiscal woes. There were times I found it hard to appreciate myself because of the despairing inner dialogue that convinced me it was my fault for being in this situation. I felt trapped, helpless and hopeless to navigate my way out. It is why I wrote my first book since it was a theme I had been intimate with and new well. However, I recognized that being stuck in my circumstances was not who I am. It wasn’t the narrative I wanted to live, nor succumb to. I knew somewhere deep within me there was a presence yearning to express itself but I didn’t know how to get in contact with it. I wanted to love and nurture myself with compassion instead of negative self-talk. Gradually, I noticed my conditions started to shift and my inner dialogue changed when I started meditating. I was an anxious person then, but this shifted to a calm and peaceful person over the coming years. Breaking Down The Old And Tired Ways Of Living The love within us awaits you to come home to it. It’s your palace of refuge, a place that knows no boundaries, other than to receive you in its arms and awaken you to your authentic self. The self-love I speak of starts by recognising that difficult moments do not last. To love yourself through difficult times when there’s minimal growth requires you hope that what’s happening is doing so to help you give up the ruins of the past. It is breaking down the tired and old methods of living a new base of love and strength can emerge from your authentic self. The spiritual teacher and author Matt Kahn provides us the wisdom in his book Everything Is Here to Help You: A Loving Guide for Your Soul’s Evolution that love is more than an emotion but a wellspring of compassion that resides within us and our job is to bring it forth:”From a spiritual perspective, love isn’t an emotion we feel all of the time. Love is an unwavering depth of compassion and empathy that reaches inward to embrace our experiences-no matter how mixed up, closed down, unfulfilled, or overwhelmed we tend to be. When rooted in the vibration of love, we don’t have to be totally treated to bring forth the kindness and care that already dwells within us.” There’s a source of love within you that beckons you to connect with it. Do not take my word for it because it appears on your display. Unite with this loving presence by standing in front of a mirror and reciting the words:”I love you” the minute you finish reading this report. Recite those three-letter words when you feel joy and happiness or when you are angry or depressed. Recite them as often as you can because you are outside conditions don’t have to dictate how you love yourself. The love I speak of is always there waiting for you to come home to it. The more you connect with this boundless presence, the greater it’ll be known throughout your lifetime. The way we treat ourselves through difficult times says a whole lot about who we are because who we are is an energy of love. If we make time to connect with this presence more often, we’ll realise that our difficulties serve a purpose; to return us to the wholeness of our authentic self.